We all want to be loved.
A couple coming to a therapist and saying that both of them want to be loved despite their shortcomings and difficulties. Who is going to do the loving then if there is only two of them? Adam Szustak called this need ‘a crocodile’. Everyone has a crocodile.
They see the crocodile in themselves and in their partner. Some people choose to walk away from their chosen partners. They are looking for the emerald somewhere else. Possibly someone else can give it to them?
All of us are looking for the emerald. Where is it? It is in each of us. Try mindfulness exercise or Christian contemplative meditation (if this is your tradition) to look for the emerald.